1.Be Happy With Yourself!
Focus on your positives, skills & qualities. Write a list of all the things you like about yourself and what your good at. Embrace these factors and make them your selling points! Also write a list out of the things you would like to improve on and then write out a step by step plan on how to achieve these improvements.
Set yourself some short term & long term goals, whether they are to do with a career you would like to pursue or even maybe something you’ve always wanted to do like travel the world or even something more smaller, like passing a driving test. Whatever is it write it down and then plan how you’ll work towards achieving them & give yourself a deadline.
Try getting into the habit of turning negative thoughts and images into positive ones. Instead of doubting yourself, tell yourself you CAN do & achieve things you may think you can’t, reassure yourself that you’re a great person with great talents. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, think about your main qualities then open your eyes & smile, realise that those qualities are what make you who you are & different from everyone else! Let the feel of confidence take over & don’t worry about anyone but yourself!!
Be a dare devil, be spontaneous, sky is the limit! Do something you’ve never done before, conquer a fear you may have, push your boundaries, explore! New surroundings & experiences prepare you for things you may end up coming across later in life, It can also help you to find out things about yourself you may not of known before. So go ahead and try something new today.
Now this involves a lot of YOU time & also a lot of talking to yourself! Some people like to do this exercise in the mirror, some people like to close their eyes and imagine themselves in a situation & others just role play it out with themselves, whichever one feels more comfortable & helpful for you, try it! Put yourself in situations that you think you’re not so confident with, such as meeting new people, talking out loud in meetings, talking in job interviews etc.. & act how you feel is appropriate for the situation. Take notes & read them over and over, the more you memorise your actions the more natural they’ll come to you once you find yourself in that situation.
To feel good you have to feel you look good, & to look good you have to take care of yourself & ensure you’re well presented! Start off with taking a look at your lifestyle & diet, are you a healthy eater? Do you get enough exercise? If the answer is no then these are the first things you want to change & improve on! No amount of makeup & designer labels will cover the fact you feel grotty & unhealthy inside. Also start to look at your skincare routine, Do you cleanse, tone and moisturise daily? These are very important things to consider when trying to maintain a healthy diet & good lifestyle. After you’ve dealt with your inside health, you can then start to make some improvements or changes on the outside with clothing styles, hairstyles, makeup looks etc…
People who lack confidence tend to be very shy in an open environment & tend not to socialise much as they don’t know how to approach people & start convo’s which usually gets mistaken for you being rude! Your social skills are a big key to open many doors to opportunities, as you’ll need to be able to approach people to promote yourself, learn things, network & also build contacts. Don’t feel intimidated when meeting new people they are probably just as nervous as you but just know how to deal with it. When communicating with people ensure you give good eye contact & your body language shows you’re listening & interested. Also work on your posture, a bad posture can come across rude & make you unapproachable, also gives away the fact that you’re very unconfident which can put people off you (especially in job interviews). So throw on a big smile, talk clearly, be polite, give good eye contact, shake hands firmly, have a good posture & believe in yourself!
Don’t be in the background, get out there, be noticed! While being shy and quiet can be cute, it also gives away the fact that you are not confident & unfortunately when some people notice this they tend to take advantage of it & try to intimidate you to help boost their own confidence. So speak up in meetings and when you’re out, get your points and opinions across, let the world know you have a voice and remember to always stick up for yourself in you find yourself a victim of someone else’s insecurities.
Very important to be an organised person as it helps you to plan things out more easily and gives you less stress and things to worry about. Try not to leave things to the last min, always plan beforehand so you have a rough idea of how things will go & prepare yourself for it.
You must believe in yourself before expecting someone else to believe in you, write out inspirational quotes & stick them on your mirror to remind you every day how great you are & what you’re working towards. Confidence is the key to many peoples success as well as believing in themselves. Try looking at appropriate role models you can look up to such as a family member, your boss or even a friend. Study how they are and how they react to things, take notes & add them to your skills and qualities. You must remember you are special and unique, you have talents you rock in, looks of your own, skills and experience that someone else would do a lot for & so many other great things. So embrace the positives, improve the negatives & believe in yourself!
Be Confident, Be Beautiful, Be YOU!